I have gotten a number of “shocked” looks recently as I have let people know that God has made it clear to me that I need to unload all of my outside-of-our house responsibilities as we prepare to bring our other children home. At first, this may sound like a good reason to get out of tasks. In reality, it is an admission that God is in control and a submission to His will as He authors our family. I am not sure I can truly have appropriate expectations for what our family might face in the coming months. As the first video stated, having virtually no expectations is the best scenario! This video gave me a gentle confirmation that God wants my time and attention to be given to running our house, supporting Jon, and loving all four of my children. Until all four of my children understand a mother’s love and what a family is, I cannot possibly serve or minister outside of our house to others during this season of transition.
Again, my friend Jeanette who adopted Sara Beth from China a year ago, gives commentary on how she prepared to simplify her life and even her house and clutter in preparation for bringing Sara Beth home. I encourage you to read her post by clicking here.
You may not be seeking an education on adoption, adoptive families, or the adoption process, but taking a few minutes to watch this video might help you realize that an education on adoption is actually an insight into people. I have a high regard for Dr. Karyn Purvis and the work she does with children from hard places. My friend, Jeanette, began posting these short videos daily along with some wonderful commentary on her blog. I encourage you to check out her insights for this video by clicking here. Dr. Purvis has made several short videos related to different issues or challenges on adoption. I urge you to take a minute or two each day to watch these videos over the course of the next week or two. I will post a video for you to view as well as some commentary. Please take this opportunity to gain insight into all people and give some specific thought to the fatherless!
I have realized the more I follow some truly well-written blogs, the more I want to just direct my friends and family to them! It isn’t that I do not feel like God has given me a voice of my own, I just sometimes feel like redirecting my own friends and family is the best option. Let me now redirect you…Jon had an influential mentor with Young Life in high school named Mr. Finley. Through a series of God orchestrated events, he has caught back up with Mr. Finley and his entire family online recently. Interestingly enough, the Finleys adopted a daughter from the Ukraine last year. Mr. Finley’s wife is a wonderful blogger, speaker, and writer who keeps a fantastic blog. I encourage you to check it out at http://www.finleylifetothefull.com/
Back in May, Cindy Finley wrote a post about supporting adoptive families during the adoption process. I encourage you to click here and read the entire post. The meat of her advice was to pray, encourage, and serve them because adoption is hard. I could not agree any more with her advice and her post! Please read it and take an active role in caring for the orphans. If you are interested, in addition to our own adoption process, I can tell you about several families who are currently oversees adopting or who are, like us, knee deep in paperwork and waiting.
We are realizing first hand the paperwork hoops required. Each time we think we have correctly completed a document, we find out there is a glitch. Although this can be discouraging to us, we realize that the paperwork is just a minor, albeit important, hurdle to be taken conquered in order to bring home our children from the Ukraine…and we are willing to face any necessary hurdle for our children.